Joyce first came into my life when I was nine years old. She married our family friend, Abraham.

I don’t remember a lot about Joyce’s wedding. It was a traditional Christian Indian wedding, a Kerala wedding, an arranged marriage. It carried different traditions to imagery popularised in modern Bollywood culture. But India is India; family, food and celebration is at the heart of all the cultures and sub-cultures here.

On her wedding day, Joyce wore cream. And the ceremony and celebrations were long. And in Malayalam.

^ Joyce second from the right with her new husband, Abraham. Yours truly front left.

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